Monday, December 8, 2008

Help!

I need a little advice. As I've said before, Grandpa died last March. So this holiday season is our family's first without him. Grandma and Grandpa's anniversary is Dec 12th. My sister and I are trying to decide what to do. Should we send her flowers on that day? She married him the day after she turned 16 and they'd been married for like 61 years. I know if it was me, I wouldn't want anything said or done, but everyone is different. If it was you, what would you want done? Nothing? Everything? Grandma acts like his death wasn't a big deal but I know it was. She's always down played her emotions for her kids and grandkids. I know this has to be hard on her. Please help!

2 comments:

Mike and Christy said...

While flowers are nice, I've never been a huge fan of them since they die and you have to throw them away. I think something I might like would be a nice picture of you and Jess (and anyone else they helped raise if you can manage it) and the girls. On that photo, put a nice note saying how much you appreciate her and Grandpa and the love they/she always had/has. Like, have that note printed on the actual picture.

63angel said...

When my father in law died, my mother in law came to live with us. They would have been married 57yrs when he died. What we did was take her out for that day and took her to Fiddler On the Roof. It was a show that dad knew she loved. I was worried that it would upset her. But she was so thrilled and it meant so much to her. I think spending time with her would be great and if she is a distance from you, give her a call and tell her how much she means to her and that you love her. Everyone that I know that was married that long wants to remember and have the memories shared that others have. :) I think the picture is a great idea too. Im not much for flowers either. A memory is so much more important.